WORDS OF THE WISE
I should have known it was going to happen. I promised myself I wouldn’t let it happen. While some of the weaker people gave in or gave up, I refused. I told myself I would be the exception… I was wrong.
Please don’t misunderstand me, I really tried. I went further than most, but in the end I was the same as everyone else… I got older. It wasn’t getting older that I was trying to avoid, it was the actions of an older person that really bothered me.
The sitting, the words of the wise, carrying on about things I thought were inconsequential when I was younger. I heard it all, politics, religion, even some good old-fashioned gossip thrown in the mix. I heard the comparisons of that generation to the next and clearly dismissed it as hogwash spouted from the mouths of older, lazier, jealous folks we use to call fossils. (a play on the age thing!)
The elders spoke of me or my “type” as if they knew me… They didn’t know me! I was different! I was smarter, I had more wisdom, I had more desire… I was dumb.
They did know me, worse yet, the knew all of us, even better than we knew ourselves. Our words didn’t count for much to that generation. Many times while trying to convince them of what I thought was their lacking of understanding, they just smiled and nodded. They knew what I was decades from comprehending, talk is cheap. They were cleverly watching our actions.
That more mature group of people wasn’t about to have an argument with a fool… I guess they possessed entirely too much wisdom for that game of tic-tac-toe.
How could I have been so wrong? The answer is even more clear than the big “E” on the eye chart from 2 feet away. — Foolishness.
To ignore the advice from people who’ve already been where we are and who we know have our best interest at heart in hindsight feels a bit like insanity.
Time has a way of changing things, whether we want it to or not. In some ways, the changes aren’t pleasant. It was relatively easy to be dumb and happy. The aches and pains purchased with the abundance of ignorance that comes with youth is a gift I’d like to return for a full refund, but I didn’t read the fine print…
All sales and actions along with the consequences that went along with them were non-refundable. Wish I’d have gotten that extended warranty on these eyes as well. I’d rather not have to wear these spectacles to see what I’m sharing with you now.
On the other side of that coin, I find the profile of a man wiser than he was when he was young. Most of us can relate to that. I realize the words spoken by the generations before us, in majority, were said because they cared. They had love for the people in their lives and in most cases they had love for their country.
That group of a little wiser people believed that the people born in this country were born into a blessing or gift from God. The generations preceding us had passion for the character of the people with God’s word as the foundation of that character.
I now sit in the place where great people once sat. I have that responsibility to share truth with the ones next in line for this chair, whether they listen or not.
When I share with them how the things of the greatest value and gratification in this world are earned and that the only one truly free life-giving gift comes from God, then they roll their eyes, what will I do?
I’ll smile as I nod my head, then I’ll keep talking, writing, and remembering.
Knowing one day, it will all make sense.
Then it will be their turn.
Holly
Friday, May 13, 2011 @ 6:10 am
Alas….we all did that as youngsters…and they in turn will continue to do it….
That is how lifes lessons are learned. How many times we as adults think back, and realize that the adults in our lives had some merit to their words? They were telling us because they do love us, yet as youngins, we were to stubborn, prideful, or just plain dumb to listen. Wouldn’t it be great if we could just get that accross to your kids? I know it will be next to impossible, and they will have learn their own lessons, but I will keep trying in any case!
Thanks Floyd for showing perspective!
Floyd
Friday, May 13, 2011 @ 6:58 am
Thanks Holly, you pretty much hit the nail on the head. The best part is, like you pointed out, we will never give up. I guess that stubbornness has a purpose after all!
Bt
Saturday, May 14, 2011 @ 4:42 pm
One of best friends has often said … Hey “T” as we grow older and the younger stallions nudge us out … we can sit on the front step and know that ” we’ve been there and done that … probably better then they will”. The road to knowing what you want and who you can be is often paved with many moments of learning what you don’t want and who you’re not. Youth is wasted on the young. If only I knew then what I know now 🙂
Floyd
Saturday, May 14, 2011 @ 6:12 pm
Leave it to you to sum up in 10 words what it takes me a couple hundred to accomplish! The harsh reality of who we’re not and what we don’t want is what I guess they call the maturing process. As we sit on the front step and give them words of wisdom and warning will they listen? I doubt it, neither you or I did…
Pat
Monday, May 16, 2011 @ 7:34 pm
I have a lot of T-shirts from my many travels down the famous road of mistakes (been there, done that, have the t-shirt). Who wouldn’t want to go back and relive those days knowing what we know now? I agree that “youth is wasted on the young.” AND, there are always going to be those who think they know it all (I sure did).
Another thought provoking post. Thanks for reminding me of the responsibility that comes with age/wisdom – to speak the truth, even if they don’t have ears to hear.
P.S. Either you’re writing too fast or I’m reading too slow; I can’t keep up. ;-D
Floyd
Monday, May 16, 2011 @ 8:09 pm
One of these days we’re going to have to compare our t-shirts, between the two of us we should just about have every subject covered! It could be you spent an enormous amount of time writing your post today! It was very inspiring…
patty
Wednesday, May 18, 2011 @ 12:22 pm
Floyd ,
You have done it again good story and true to life ! yep your right all that was told to us when we were young and it went in one ear and out the other.!! And here we are ,trying to tell some one younger what we no is best and we have been there,In one ear and out the other. there time well come as ours did!
Floyd
Wednesday, May 18, 2011 @ 4:53 pm
Thanks Patty, you summed it up perfectly, “In one ear and out the other”!
jake
Thursday, May 26, 2011 @ 8:53 pm
I’m fascinated by the notion that I could be wrong right now. I don’t want to be, but I’m ready to accept it. I just wonder what dreams will die, what aspirations were poorly-motivated and where it will all come down in the end.
Floyd
Thursday, May 26, 2011 @ 10:36 pm
You my friend are on the right track. You are light years ahead of where I and people like me were. That isn’t by chance, your calling will take you places most of us can’t go…