WINNING
As I watched from the sidelines I could almost see the intensity, the adrenaline, the purpose in their faces. I’d seen it before many times, I’d lived it as well, the anticipation of the gun or whistle right before the start of an event.
This is a little different perspective for me standing in the spectator section, not on the sidelines. Another start to another game, watching the younger people practicing and learning how to conduct themselves in life, with passion and perseverance.
I wonder if they’ll remember things I shared with them during our time together in years past.
The interesting part of a sporting event is how it parallels our lives. In his second letter to Timothy, Paul reflects on his life as a sporting event. A race.
I think it’s easy to apply that same analogy to all of our lives. When I was younger I thought of that race as a sprint and I ran it to win at all costs. The unfortunate part of our world is that’s how most people see life, as a sprint, but a sprint with an improper perspective.
The world measures success in the race called life by what we have on the outside, real success can only be measured on the inside. There’s nothing wrong with earned material things to enjoy in this life, but if that’s what is counted to determine a winner, the person counting does not understand the language and they will find themselves cast into the loser’s circle.
A couple of weeks ago our youngest told me she didn’t really like track and wanted to quit. Thank God I’m not in the early part of my race or the guidance given could have probably been damaging.
I asked her, “How come Bern”? (another nickname) She quietly answered, “I don’t know….I’m not really that good at running.” That tore a little piece from my heart, I knew it wasn’t easy to say or admit in complete honesty. In truth, she’s actually pretty fast but she has to realize and believe it to have any success with it.
“You know it’s not really about just winning, you need to run because you love it first,” I explained. She was listening, “You might not win a race this year or next, but winning isn’t about just your race this year, winning is measured across a lifetime. You’re training yourself now to be an athlete for life.”…… “You understand”? “Yeah,” she said widening her eyes a bit, visibly feeling better.
The individual is as different as each person’s race. Our little one doesn’t need any additional pressure to do well, she puts an inordinate amount of pressure on herself to do well. She must take after her mother!!!
I think I’ll wait to tell her the stories of how I got punished as a kid for being a sore loser or the story when I was disqualified for instinctively taking an inside line of the inside lane in a track meet while on my way to crossing the finish line first.
As we monitor our progress in this race called life, how are we doing? Are we doing better now than in the beginning? The better we get, the slower we get. When we were younger we measured how fast we got across the line or what number represented us or our team.
Now Godly wisdom dictates we measure how many people we can get across the line with us or before us. We look more like shepherds than runners now.
Every day is a new day or leg in the race of our life, we’re not here by chance, but by design.
As I stand on the sidelines my desire for all the girls is the same now as it was in the beginning. Play the game of life with honor, passion, perseverance, and play it to win…
Lainey
Friday, March 18, 2011 @ 6:24 am
Floyd:
There’s also a painful lesson as we get older and become an observer instead of
a participant. I’m struggling with that now, & would love your thoughts on
that process–
Floyd
Friday, March 18, 2011 @ 10:26 am
You already know my answer to that… You need to teach and share what you know and have learned along the way. The talents God blessed you with are far beyond the average person. I think He’s calling you to guide and teach. By the way thank you for being my proof reader and finding my mistakes, your using one of your gifts to help me out and I appreciate it. Thanks Lainey
Stefani Laub
Friday, March 18, 2011 @ 8:19 am
we will never forget everything you have instilled in us, i know i never will. you have made me a better coach and i try to to apply everything you have taught me and i cant thank you enough
Floyd
Friday, March 18, 2011 @ 10:28 am
I see your passion being poured out and I’m honored by it. Follow your passion God will take care of the rest. Thanks
Bt
Friday, March 18, 2011 @ 7:07 pm
Your message of sports being tied to real life is near and dear to my heart. I have so many times taken lessons learned on the sports truf and applied them to life. Depending on what stage we are at in our lives, we can sometimes feel as if we ought to know more or have accoumplished more in life, the same is true in sports. The key to be success in sports is when the game slowed down in your mind. The real take away from sports was “overcoming obstacles” (nothing is insurmountable). We often gain support from past obstacles that we overcome. But isn’t that the path that GOD places in front of us … to see how we conduct ourselves when the path is full of obstacles?
Floyd
Friday, March 18, 2011 @ 9:33 pm
Indeed you’re right, sometimes it seems as though the more we conquer the more God places before us? Sometimes it feels like a regular black diamond obstacle course! Deep provoking thoughts we’ve come to expect from the infamous “BT” Thank you…