THE ROAD TO MORE… OR LESS
We have prospered. Yes, we’ve come a long way since the days of struggle, on the road to more.. or less. Even some of the poorest in our society now have indoor plumbing, air conditioning, TV, computers, and cell phones. Yes, sir – we’re living grand days and in the land flowing with milk and honey.
Peculiar that all the grand things we’ve strived and struggled for don’t necessarily make life better or bring loved ones closer.
One of the last trips we made as a family to visit our grandparents in California was inconvenient, to say the least. My dad was working out of town and had with him the only vehicle that was running at the time. My two older brothers were grown. Bobby, my middle brother, had the only reliable vehicle, a pickup truck – long before the days of extra cabs.
I was at the age of full height but not being in charge of making plans, just obligated to follow them out. The grand plan was to meet our dad in California at my mom’s parents house for Christmas. He in 72′ Javelin, the rest of us, the magnificent seven, in a half ton Ford.
Being male, as well as the youngest, I knew from history made me a shoe-in for the pick-up bed for the chilly December four-hour joy ride. While we didn’t have much, we had plenty of blankets and we’d need all of them. Though fully grown and in high school, that was the last time I remember nodding out and sleeping like a baby. The four hours passed like four minutes and we made the sacrifice to be with family instead of the excuses the folks who have more tend to make.
The amount of changes that have transpired since those meager days is mind boggling. For all that the technology and advances promised in changing our lives for the better in order to enjoy the truly important things in life, they really only succeeded in changing our priorities and culture in general by making the majority of us more self-absorbed. I might well have been served a double portion.
The smooth ride, electrical adjustable leather seats with built-in heaters, electric windows and sometimes roofs, cruise control, navigation, stereos that sound like a concert hall, and engines the barely make a sound yet move us like lightning, doesn’t mean we use them for honorable and selfless trips with a proper focus on the things that should matter most.
The cell phones that do everything but wash our feet keep us connected, but not like a face to face meeting or hug can. It’s a cheap imitation of being truly connected.
What is it about sacrifice that makes things so much sweeter? Maybe it’s how we’re reminded that our most honorable actions are always the ones when we’re doing something for someone else and the emotion and gratification that comes along with the action of self-discipline.
A famous quote comes to mind, “Tis better to give than receive.” I think I’ve gotten too used to receiving and have forgotten how to give. Lord help us…
Not that I’m recommending riding in the back of a pick up on I-10 during December, but it helps me to remember.
Alyssa Santos
Thursday, April 3, 2014 @ 9:10 am
I’ve had a few conversations with my youngest about having, possessing, consuming. He’s only nine and all he’s known personally is our lifestyle, our modern conveniences, our ease. My husband told him the other day, “Nikko, you shouldn’t complain about having to take a shower. I know that no nine-year old wants to shower, but you can and you have clean water ready whenever you turn the knob. It’s all in how you look at it: it’s a chore or a privilege.” Sometimes I get nervous that my kids’ soft life won’t serve them well in the long run, that no matter how many chores I give them I can’t teach them what they need to understand about privilege being well, a privilege, and I wonder how they’ll do in life. But I try to remember that they have their memories, as we have ours, and the goal is not the removal of comfort as much as the gratitude for it, and the generosity with it.
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 5:48 pm
“The goal is not the removal of comfort as much as the gratitude for it, and the generosity with it.” You’ve given this some thought long before you got here, Alyssa! I fear what you do. I’ve learned that the best things I ever got from my parents were the things I never got, the things they couldn’t give me. I cherish that gift second after the Good News they did share with us. I so appreciate your heart and wisdom, Alyssa.
tcavey
Thursday, April 3, 2014 @ 9:54 am
The other day I was driving down the interstate and I saw a man in the bed of a truck. It reminded me all the times my dad used to pick up hitch hikers and give them a lift.
I haven’t seen many people in the beds of trucks anymore- not “safe”.
Oh, yes, I’ve gotten too comfy receiving, time to give. How blessed I am.
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 5:50 pm
You’re not alone, that’s for sure! It’s easy to lose your edge and get soft in ways that don’t bring honor. It’s a struggle, but when we keep our eyes on the Truth it seems worlds easier. Thanks for sharing that memory, knew it would be one like mine, TC.
Bill (cycelguy)
Thursday, April 3, 2014 @ 1:02 pm
Man this threw me backwards in time. We never had a pickup but I can remember those long trips, sometimes after dad got off work, as we drove through the mountains of PA on our way to Maryland for the weekend so his mom. Fighting over the window. Coming back from Canada in the winter sitting in the back seat freezing my..aaah…feet off. Good times. Good memories. Thanks Floyd for the trip down memory lane.
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 5:51 pm
You’re welcome, Bill. The trip down memory lane is a whole lot more comfortable than the ones we used to take in the back seat!
Thomas Mason
Thursday, April 3, 2014 @ 1:43 pm
Sometimes I think we have too many things competing for our attention. The overcrowding and the noise supersedes the things and people in our lives that really mater
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 5:52 pm
I agree, Thomas. The simple things that we got and didn’t get are some of the most powerful things we ever got. What will we be leaving our children with? Man, that concerns me.
Pam
Thursday, April 3, 2014 @ 6:28 pm
So many truths shared both in your post and in the comments. Not only makes me thankful for all that I have but also makes me want to plan more family time. Thanks,Floyd.
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 5:53 pm
The sacrifice for family is one we’ll never regret. It’s an act of true love. I need to be better at it for sure. Thanks, Pam.
Chuck Allen
Thursday, April 3, 2014 @ 9:55 pm
I loved riding in our ’62 Chevy pickup, but not in the bed for four hours. Yikes! It is funny how our gadgets that are supposed to keep us connected often leave us staring at a screen instead of spending time together.
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 5:55 pm
Well said, Chuck!!! We end up looking down at a screen while the real world passes us by! Glad we take time away from looking at screens so that we can really actually live! Just need to do more of it… Thanks, Chuck.
Betty Jo
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 7:20 am
Floyd what an incredible post! I don’t think you’ve forgotten how to give at all. . . and you do it here on your blog often. You give us life lessons that truly touch the heart and inspire us to think and then to act. This one today is awesome. I totally agree with your conclusion of this paragraph in particular: “What is it about sacrifice that makes things so much sweeter? Maybe it’s how we’re reminded that our most honorable actions are always the ones when we’re doing something for someone else and the emotion and gratification that comes along with the action of self discipline.” Amen Brother!!
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 5:58 pm
Well thanks, Betty Jo. I guess we all come short in this fallen flesh. I think the bond with your family is a wonderful gift and the wisdom you use is something I’m watching and learning. See there, you didn’t even know I was taking notes, did you? God bless you, Betty Jo!
Ceil
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 8:40 am
Hi Floyd! The love of family will drive us to do interesting things…like ride in a truck bed down the highway! And what a great ride you had, probably the best rest of your young life. God is so good. Now a days, you’d all be arrested for not having seat belts or something!
But those were simpler times. We did a lot more ‘face to face’ encounters back then. I do think that gadgets tend to divide us, making me more absorbed in the ‘stuff’ of the day. I hope I will learn, like you did, that nothing takes the place of family and friends. We are all here for such a short time. Why spend it playing Candy Crush? Why not get out there and grab lunch with a friend?
Happy Friday 🙂
Ceil
(Candy Crush Addict)
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 6:00 pm
Good words, Ceil. I know you press your fair share of flesh, sister. Thanks for your humility and grace, sister. It’s so easy to get absorbed isn’t it? I’m doing better than I used to. First things first. Thanks, Ceil.
Jason Stasyszen
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 12:52 pm
So true, Floyd. I marvel at people who think online or phone communication is the same as face to face. I mean, if you think about it, there is literally something in between you. It’s great for when you can’t be together, but making the sacrifice to do what’s good and important brings such fruit. I could go on, but I’m with you, Floyd. 🙂 Thanks.
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 6:02 pm
I like that word, “fruit”, Jason. That’s exactly what we get from the sacrifice of doing the right thing and hugging someone. As much as this is great fellowship, I’d much rather shake your hand and give you a big brotherly hug! Maybe one day! Thanks, Jason.
June
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 1:07 pm
Oh, my, Floyd – that is one cold ride. That was a blessed sleep you were under, brother 🙂
“…our most honorable actions are always the ones when we’re doing something for someone else and the emotion and gratification that comes along with the action of self discipline.” Well said.
Technology can be a blessing or a curse. We have to be wise in how we use it. Unfortunately, there is that element out there in the world {that we can’t control} that doesn’t use it wisely or moral-ly. I’m afraid in the not so near future, we’ll have a lot more to be concerned about than cell phones that wash our feet. I’d say the scales are tipping to the “curse” side of the equation.
BTW- I agree with Betty Jo 100%
Floyd
Friday, April 4, 2014 @ 6:06 pm
Thanks so much, June. Technology is becoming an idol all by itself. Much danger in that, I agree. Moderation is tough, but with the right amount we can do more with it by often doing less. I certainly appreciate that we get to lift one another up and encourage one another with a technology that the enemy meant to do us harm! Our Father is sovereign over His creation! I appreciate the wise eyes and mind in which you look at this world. Reminds me to keep my armor on! Blessings to you and yours, June.
Betty Draper
Saturday, April 5, 2014 @ 2:53 pm
Can I just say this is one of favorite post you have written. It speaks to exactly how we should view what God has given us. Paul challenge is to learn to live with less or more but for all be grateful. As for the technology we have today, it speeds up translating the gospel into different languages and keep us up dated on current events and for that I am grateful. I like a fb message, a Skype message, a email, a blog comment and a phone call but I LOVE a personal face to face with a hug with anyone wiling to go the extra mile to give that. I so look forward to receiving that from Jesus since He has already went the extra mile to give me the privilege of doing that someday. Great post brother…
Floyd
Sunday, April 6, 2014 @ 7:52 am
What a wonderful perspective, Betty. To long for that hug is a longing from the soul to be reunited in perfect love with our Creator. Never thought of that hug. Wow. That’ll stop and make you think. Nothing beats flesh pressing flesh, even a handshake or pat on the back. I’ll look forward to pressing flesh with you one day, either here or the hereafter. Blessings to you, sister. Thanks!
Dan Black
Saturday, April 5, 2014 @ 6:12 pm
Modern technology (which will be old tomorrow:) brings both pros and cons with it. We have to be careful not to allow technology to get in the way of building and maintaining relationships with those we care about or in blessing others. Great post!
Floyd
Sunday, April 6, 2014 @ 7:53 am
Well said, Dan. Looking forward to that cup of coffee with you again, brother!
Dan Black
Wednesday, April 9, 2014 @ 3:59 pm
Me too!!! Can’t wait
Wanda
Sunday, April 6, 2014 @ 3:38 pm
So true Floyd. We have advanced much yet also lost much of what matters most in this life.
Floyd
Monday, April 7, 2014 @ 5:12 pm
I’m with you, Wanda. It’s heartbreaking. Reminds me of the old adage, “Be careful what you wish for.” Thanks, Wanda.
Mike
Monday, April 7, 2014 @ 6:26 pm
I find it disturbing when I see a group of young people standing together and all of them are texting and not talking to each other. TV is another conversation killer which is why I don’t have one in the front room. Technology is great, if we don’t let it consume us. Unfortunately those who have grow up with all the technology will have an uphill battle in building deep relationships. By the way, I think that trip in the back of the pick up would be fun if I were 40 years younger. 🙂
Floyd
Monday, April 7, 2014 @ 6:33 pm
I’m with you, Mike. Even now when you see young married couples they aren’t looking at one another when they’re together, they’re looking at the phone they’re texting on. Drives me crazy!
I get stiff making that drive in good seats now, Mike! Of course I weigh close to a hundred pounds more! That might have something to do with it! Thanks, Mike. Good to hear from you, brother.
child of God
Monday, April 7, 2014 @ 6:42 pm
Only on the country roads here in Canada do you see people riding in the box of the pickup and even there you are chancing to have the driver’s licence taken away. Riding in the back on the I 10, now that’s just sweet!
The changing times are just increasing rapidly. I am wondering how communicating will look like in 10 years from now. I’m kind of scared to guess.
Blessings. 🙂
Floyd
Monday, April 7, 2014 @ 7:06 pm
Yeah, that is a little scary to think about! Yeah, we don’t see too many people riding in the backs of pickups these days… Man, am I starting to feel old! Blessings to you too, sister.
Dolly@Soulstops
Monday, April 7, 2014 @ 9:26 pm
Floyd,
Your post makes me ask myself whether I am willing to give sacrificially when God asks me to, and for a greater good than my own personal comfort…technology can make life better in one way, but it can also be a distraction as you pointed out…praying for grace and wisdom and gratitude…blessings to you ..
Floyd
Tuesday, April 8, 2014 @ 5:44 pm
You have a way of bringing things back to wisdom and soul consideration… I think “Soul Stops” is the perfect name for what you do, Dolly. “Praying for grace and wisdom and gratitude.” Amen, Dolly. Thanks.
Brad gore
Wednesday, April 9, 2014 @ 2:08 pm
Well spoken words from quite possibly the most generous and giving person ive ever known.
Floyd
Wednesday, April 9, 2014 @ 5:30 pm
Oh man. You’re way too good to me, Brad. But with a heart like yours I’m not surprised by your kindness and generosity. Thanks so much, my friend.