NEVER SAY NEVER
When I was younger I said some pretty dumb things. Never mind just saying them, I would back them up with even more ignorant declarations.
Let me give you one simple example. I have a friend named Mike. My group of friends and even family like to tease a bit. (Actually a lot) Mike made a comment about me someday driving a specific type of car. We were judgemental as well as ignorant, but it falls under the same category.
My answer wasn’t a simple, “Nuh-Uh”! I had to give a very detailed declaration. “I’d rather crawl through the desert all the way to California, on my hands and knees, through broken glass, without water, dragging my tongue over the glass and hot pavement, than drive that type of car there”!!!
…My wife drives that type of car now…
This is just one example, I have enough to fill an encyclopedia size set of books.
Although with age and wisdom we realize that this is a very short life, we also realize that never is a long time.
I’m very appreciative of that forgiveness thing Jesus talked about because there’ve been a lot of times I’ve gone back on my word.
I could be the size of a barn with all the words I’ve had to eat. Maybe I’d be skinny due to the fact that my foot was usually in my mouth. You get the point. (and pun)
I try to choose my words a little more carefully these days. The Proverb, “Pride goeth before a fall, after humility, comes honor.” This Bible verse has more meaning in my life now than ever before.
I’ve also learned that words are powerful, but not as powerful as actions. Talking the talk, is much easier than walking the walk. Since we as humans are not perfect and given to weakness. It’s not bad advice to follow the rule of Never Say Never.
There are some exceptions to that rule. There are also some self-fulfilling prophecy in those powerful words.
I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard people say, “I’m never gonna…” Finish the statement any number of ways and we’ve all heard most of them. “I’m never gonna be rich.” Or, “I’m never gonna get outta this place.” Maybe, “I’m never gonna trust another person as long as I live”! One of the most popular is, “I’m never gonna go to church again”!
A bitter heart is powerful.
I have to admit all the nevers I quoted and didn’t keep. I’d rather lose integrity for a short time, in order to gain wisdom for a lifetime.
Although I failed many times to keep my sometimes ignorant word because I didn’t and can admit it, I have peace.
I think quite often those “never declarations” find their motivations in fear. Fear of failing, fear of rejection, and fear of losing control. That seems more like existing than it does living.
The gift of life has its struggles and disappointments, but it also has the promise of God to those of us who believe.
The “never” that I count on through the days that make up my life is the one promise in scripture. (partial) “I WILL NEVER LEAVE THEE OR FORSAKE THEE.”
This promise of “never” is also the forgiveness for my unkept “nevers.”
By the way, I never told Mike I got my wife that car…
Dan Black
Tuesday, June 12, 2012 @ 9:37 pm
Great reminder on the importance of being careful in what we say. It’s true wisdom to think before you speak. Thank you for the story and reminder.
Floyd
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 7:00 am
Thank you Dan. I’ve made that mistake more than once unfortunately!
Betty Draper
Tuesday, June 12, 2012 @ 11:30 pm
Be swift to hear and slow to speak…I need that verse tatooed (not sure I spelled that right) on the inside of my eye lids.
I just posted something with that verse, “I will never leave or forsake thee”. Nothing can seperate us from His love, even our “never say nevers”. Great post my brother, clean and to the point.
Floyd
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 7:03 am
Thanks Betty. That’s the perfect verse for this scenario. I didn’t even think of it. His grace is difficult to comprehend, but I’m grateful for it.
bill (cycleguy)
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 2:08 am
Man, Floyd, your words speak volumes: I could be the size of a barn with all the words I’ve had to eat. Maybe I’d be skinny due to the fact that my foot was usually in my mouth. You get the point. (and pun I believe you and I must be long lost kin. Way too often I have said words I have had to eat. Crow is untasty. Great reminder my friend.
Floyd
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 7:05 am
Thanks Bill.
I’ve used the exact same words to describe myself as related to eating! Which could only mean one thing… We probably are related! I could think of worse things my friend…
tcavey
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 7:06 am
Humorous and educational- great job!
I have put my foot in my mouth one too many times over the years! In fact, I think I could have written this post.
I remember as a teen saying I would never work in the medical field. oops!
I’d like to say I’ve learned to stop eating my words…but I haven’t. Thankfully it has become less frequent.
Floyd
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 7:19 am
Thanks TC. I’m not too surprised to find out that you and I share the same tendencies! At least we’re in good company!
tcavey
Thursday, June 14, 2012 @ 4:09 pm
Yep, good company makes this journey so much more enjoyable!
Floyd
Thursday, June 14, 2012 @ 7:43 pm
Too funny! I got that!… At least we’re not alone!
Jason Stasyszen
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 12:50 pm
I’ve made plenty of confident “never” statements, many times about my abilities or gifts, that God has had to correct me on and I had to repent so I could move forward. I’m so glad He doesn’t honor those ‘never’ statements we make in ignorance. It’s because they are lies and He can only honor the truth. We may honor the lies, but He can’t and won’t. So glad He will NEVER leave or forsake us. What a promise! Thanks Floyd.
Floyd
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 1:38 pm
“They are lies and He can only honor truth.” Well said Jason, I didn’t even think of it, but that’s exactly right. We do tell ourselves lies in pride and ignorance. Very well explained… Man you’re on it today!
Voni
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 6:12 pm
Word-eating ought to be an Olympic sport. I’d get a gold medal!
Platinum, even.
Floyd
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 6:27 pm
That’s hilarious! Here I thought I was at the top of my game! At least we know what to expect from one another!
Hazel Moon
Wednesday, June 13, 2012 @ 10:16 pm
Yes, I too have said words I later regreted, and yes, I have broken promises too. I am so thankful that God speaks over me only good words, and His promises never fail.
Floyd
Thursday, June 14, 2012 @ 6:01 am
Amen Hazel, His promises never fail. Amazing grace indeed. Thanks.
Ngina Otiende
Thursday, June 14, 2012 @ 9:57 am
You are very humorous Floyd 🙂 You made my evening yesterday (i read the post last night, commenting today. You have a way of making a point and sharing your heart.
Like you, I have used the word “never” when I shouldn’t have. There are many “NEVERs” dotting my life but one of the biggest remains. “I am a home girl who will never leave her country to settle in foreign land. For ministry and leisure yes. Relocation? NEVER!”
But here I am, almost one year old in a foreign country, busily, (albeit still dazed) pursuing our dreams. Sometimes I think God loves to single out those who think they know it all, just to prove them wrong 🙂
Great post
Floyd
Thursday, June 14, 2012 @ 7:39 pm
What a great story that is! I agree Ngina, He does seem to make the ones like us eat our words quite often! However, it’s my opinion that He made us strong, persevering, and passionate about the things that He desires our service in. You and I are two peas in a pod… then again, we’re from the same chosen family…
Jay Cookingham
Thursday, June 14, 2012 @ 12:11 pm
You know, those “nevers” sometimes cross over to thoughts and then beliefs. We find ourselves never-ing ourselves to death and stunting our growth in Him. Never talking Him at His word, never believing His promises…you get the picture. Good strong dose of “never” prevention bro’…thanks!
Floyd
Thursday, June 14, 2012 @ 7:41 pm
That’s a great point Jay. It becomes a habit, being negative and choosing that perspective has lasting implications. Glad He gave me enough wisdom to easily see my glaring faults and needs. Thanks Jay