FAMILY HISTORY
Repost from September 2010
Several times a year my family will have an unscheduled recounting of our family history. It’s like an ungraded review to make sure everyone still knows the material before we continue on to the next lesson.
We share the exact same stories of our family history over and over. Since the stories are classics they never get old. We all know the tales from beginning to end, but thrill to relive them and laugh again and again.
We all inherently know that these are the best days of our lives, despite the struggle and strife that beset all of us. This is the one thing that kids don’t argue with parents about. Even the young ones have some comprehension of how precious and passing each day is.
A typical family retrospective at my house goes something like this. “I remember when McKenzie got rammed by a goat”! My wife recalls the details with tears from laughter rolling down. Never forgetting to note McKenzie’s arms, legs and head straight out in front of her as her body was flying backward.
Before the laughter can stop, one of us will say something like. “How about Ali’s soccer career? Someone else chimes in, “I think she was looking at the sky”! The next one says, “She was the only one on the field facing the wrong way and twirling her hair as the ball bounced on by”!!
We’re rolling now. “How bout Gurm’s hambugers?” “Yeah, remember the, “Hey wez my hambugaw?”!!! Then comes the answer, “Daddy ate it”! Then we all jump in to imitate her response. “EEEEAAAAHHH”!!! Laughs abound.
The roast continues. “Remember when Mom went to meet the principle and the heel broke off her shoe”? HAAAA! Then comes all the details.
I find it peculiar how we can look back on even something that was traumatic and painful, and with enough of that magical “time” between now and then, we can laugh. Maybe laughter really is the “the best medicine.” It certainly does taste better anyway.
God grants us a select number of days on this earth and each one is a gift. The older I get the more I realize how precious each of these gifts are.
There was a time when I took my gifts for granted. I expected them as though God owed me them. Sometimes I’d unwrap each precious gift and throw them over my shoulder, looking to unwrap the next one hoping for something better.
I’m beginning to treat each gift with the respect and thankfulness that I should. I think the smart people call that “wisdom.” I just call it understanding, because like a lesson in school, there is a point when the teacher finally wins a battle and, “The Light Bulb Comes On.”
I believe sharing family stories and laughing together at each other and ourselves is God’s therapy. It’s like saying, “Thanks for always being there…” ”Thanks for your understanding…” ”Thank you for your forgiveness…” ”I’ll honor you with these stories even after you’re gone…” And, “I love you.”
“Hey, remember how horrible Kenz and Ali were when they first started playing piano?” I or my wife will declare. Inevitably my wife will add, “I should have never let them quit, they got so good”! I’ll add, “Yeah, but it sure was punishment for us until they got there”! We love to recount that one.
Today our youngest has a guitar lesson. She’ll want to show me what she learned today. It will be painful… It’s partly my fault, it wouldn’t have been as painful, but I’m the one who encouraged her to pick the electric over the acoustic guitar…
I don’t know if she’ll quit, become great, or land somewhere in between. I do know this; Someday we will laugh and cherish this day.
TC Avey
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 7:47 am
Funny how all families share similar experiences!
Floyd
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 12:02 pm
You’re right TC, we’re more alike than we are different aren’t we?
bill (cycleguy)
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 11:10 am
I think it is great she plays the guitar. The piano, organ and accordian are soon going to be like the dodo bird. 🙂 Tell her to rock on!
Floyd
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 12:08 pm
Thanks Bill, I’ll pass it on. And yeah, what happened to the harmonica???
Jay Cookingham
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 11:13 am
Amen brother! The telling (and re-telling) of those stories connect us with our children ( and later, their children’s children). Keep telling those stories dude…it’s a God thing you’re doing!
Floyd
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 12:09 pm
I agree, thanks Jay. We’ll keep telling the stories, and you’re right. They connect us beyond the stories themselves. We’re blessed to share the time God’s allotted us in this life.
Jason Stasyszen
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 12:21 pm
What a picture: unwrapping a day and throwing it out looking for a better one. Everyone can relate to that, but we don’t have to live like that. Living for eternity doesn’t mean time doesn’t matter, it means every moment is to be a beautiful expression of heaven & His heart. Thank you, Floyd.
Floyd
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 12:55 pm
Thanks Jason. We do tend to take things for granted, especially in youth. Each one is a gift to cherish.
Hazel Moon
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 5:27 pm
When I first heard the sweet sounds of a professional playing his violin, I declared that is what I want to do. I never was good at it, but My family did not laugh at me. I was in the orchestra at school and participated in some of the performances. I hope your daughter enjoys her guitar and uses it to play at church if your church has a band or orchestra. I am glad you are not laughing at her now, but will wait a few years from now so that she keeps her conficence up.
I like your true stories. I will be opening my true story site in a few minutes. All are welcome to post their true stories at:
http://letmetelluastory.blogspot.com/
Floyd
Tuesday, May 1, 2012 @ 6:42 am
Thanks Hazel. The true life stories are the best because we all have one that relates. I’ll participate in your new site and look forward to reading some of the others.
Nancy
Monday, April 30, 2012 @ 8:27 pm
Those are the things that anchor us, aren’t they?
We still tease my oldest daughter about the time the llama spit and slimed her whole face and neck. The kids tease me about falling over the dog gate and getting one foot caught as the rest of me…and my coffee, shot straight ahead into the livingroom…. Ahhhh..sweet remembrances. Yours were funny!
Thanks for the memories!
Floyd
Tuesday, May 1, 2012 @ 6:43 am
Thanks Nancy, they do indeed anchor us. Falling over the dog gate… I’ll have to remember that one!
Audra Krell
Tuesday, May 1, 2012 @ 11:35 am
I too applaud your intentional building of history and stories passed down to generations. I’ll take it step further and strongly suggest you write down the stories so you have something recorded to pass on. I love how recounting stories points back to God, often demonstrating his power to restore and to give back the years the locusts ate. Great post Floyd!
Floyd
Wednesday, May 2, 2012 @ 11:00 am
Thanks Audra. I am trying to record some of the stories, but I think our children will carry them on as well.
Dan Black
Tuesday, May 1, 2012 @ 8:04 pm
I think the most valuable thing we can do is to spend time with family. It’s more important than success or work and it’s our most valuable asset. Still being a young man (28) I try and remember to cherish every moment with my family. Great post.
Floyd
Wednesday, May 2, 2012 @ 11:01 am
I hear you Dan, I wish I had been as wise as you at your age. God’s blessing you and yours with early wisdom.
Dan Black
Wednesday, May 2, 2012 @ 4:33 pm
I’m not perfect though. It’s a challenge for me but it’s something I try and focus on. At least you have learned and can now better focus on your family.
Floyd
Wednesday, May 2, 2012 @ 10:20 pm
Thanks my friend, God is in the business of redemption… I can’t tell you how much peace and joy that brings me.
Pat
Tuesday, May 1, 2012 @ 9:01 pm
I love it when my husband gets together with his brother and sisters and they all begin to share stories or when my own children (now with children of their own) go to Grandma’s and drag out all the photo albums and begin sharing all their memories of being a kid. Like you, we laugh and laugh. Those times are, indeed, most precious.
Moi wanted to play the guitar (acoustic) like his dad. He took lessons for less than an year, complained about practicing, and subsequently quit. I think I was more disappointed than my husband was; but I also think the one who will be most disappointed is Moi when he grows up. Everyone I have ever met who took piano or guitar as a child and quit has regretted it.
Really enjoyed this, Floyd.
Floyd
Wednesday, May 2, 2012 @ 11:05 am
Thanks Pat. I’ve noticed the same thing. Our two oldest got to the point where they were enjoyable to listen to playing piano, but alas they too wanted to quit… and guess who regrets it now? The youngest has quit playing the guitar now too, she hasn’t shown signs of regret yet… but she will. I can’t say I was any different though!