BETTER THAN A LIE DETECTOR

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I caught the movement out of the corner of my eye in my rear view mirror. I’d seen it before, more than once… If I had a dollar for every time I saw it, well, it wouldn’t make me rich, but it would be a substantial shot in the arm. She must have been having a bad day when I pulled into her lane in front of her.

I didn’t cut her off, she didn’t even have to hit her brakes, but she showed me the type of person she was as she flipped me the bird. I smiled and waved… She didn’t smile or wave back… She didn’t want to be my friend.. That’s okay, I wasn’t too hip on her, after her vulgar, one finger wave.

I’ve shared my opinion before, but I think driving in traffic is better than a lie detector test to find out who a person really is. How we drive defines our personality to a “T.” Our strengths and weaknesses are multiplied by the number of horse power represented under the hoods of our vehicles.

It seems our driving in traffic is like interacting in any relationship. In a real relationship there is give and take. There is sacrifice, we don’t want to let the person in the lane in front of us, we feel taken advantage of. It feels like we’re doing all the giving and the other person cutting in front of us is doing all the taking.

When someone forces their way in by sheer will or force against ours, we want to inflict pain or justice upon the person in our traffic relationship. So we sometimes lash out verbally in our relationship in our personal life and our traffic life. We can yell and raise our voices in frustration as much as we do even total strangers in traffic. We use our actions as passive weapons to dig under the skin of those who’ve offended us. That’s what the woman was doing to me with her finger…

The game goes on as we spar in our relationships with others. In truth, my actions of smiling large and waving mockingly back was to show the incensed person who felt taken advantage of, that her actions of flipping me off didn’t hurt me. My actions were to demonstrate my indifference to her and her life.

From a human perspective, I won… From a God honoring perspective I failed miserably. Then again, that’s the biggest problems on our lives isn’t it? We allow our flesh in the moment to rule over what we know to be true otherwise. We struggle to turn the other cheek. We lash out quickly in our flesh at the target…

The issue of course is that the target that we desire to let our emotions of anger and frustration out on in selfishness, is also a target of our Father. He wants to show that target or person His power and love… through us… Oops… That’s not exactly what I had in mind at that moment…

That’s not the first time I failed the traffic lie detector test…

Maybe next time…